Blunt words from a Mel Robbins TED talk I watched today which oddly enough was an "aha" moment for me. You know how you look outside of your life, at all those people who are exercising / eating healthy / creating projects / meditating / running / doing yoga / succeeding / making money etc. on the daily and it must be so easy for them because they look great / their project is so cool / they seem abundant etc.? Turns out, it might not be as easy as it looks, but it is simple.
THE TRUTH OF BOBERT:
Those who know Bob, my action man of a dad, may be as shocked to hear this as I was, but he recently told me he doesn't actually want to run the cutbanks or do his "xyz" every day. I was like "What?!? But you love being active and 'doing'! It's who you are and what you're all about!" Turns out on the inside, he is just like everyone else with the same self sabotaging monologue going through his head like "It will be easier/less effort/less scary/safer if I don't do it." He told me his wiser self knows he will ultimately benefit from the "action" and has managed to follow through more often than not. It's just those first few minutes of push that are the most difficult.
"DON'T THINK, JUST DO."
- wise words from Josa, my acupuncturist
In the TED talk she mentions when you become an adult, no one tells you that you will have to "parent" yourself in as many words. One of the reason's why you succeeded in your life as a child is because your parents/caregivers pushed you to do the things you didn't want to do ("Brush your teeth, go to bed, don't eat sugar before dinner, clean your room, get out your pencils and draw, go outside for some fresh air"). When your parents aren't around, it's completely up to you to create the "activation energy" you need to get moving on something. For example, as a non-early riser, I have to force myself out of bed early to gain the extra time to exercise or meditate and make a good breakfast. When I do, it feels great! It's only those first few seconds that really suck, but once I'm over that, the momentum is there.
Most of us know exactly what those "actions" are that will turn us into these content, healthy people. I think my "aha" with this video came because it really sunk in that it's up to me. It's my life. It's my choice to build it as I dream fit and no one is going to do it for me unless I'm willing to do it myself.
Simple, right? What small action do you know will move you forward?